Info about Singles
Love and Losers
Enduring love, as distinct from the thing you fall into, is based on mutual respect as well as all the stuff I said before. And you need it. Boy, do you need it. Even when you truly love someone and say to yourself you love them warts and all, there will be trouble. That is when mutual respect is all that can save you.
In every relationship there are bones of contention on which one or other of you, if not both, will gag at regular intervals. They are there because you have different mothers and fathers and different egos. You must decide whether or not you can gag, recover and move on. Acceptance is everything in love long term and will be the governing factor long after desire has subsided and liking is no longer an issue. Acceptance and mutual respect. This is what you will be looking for long term.
• Losers
Apart from investing your time and affection in an unsuitable love object you may be tempted to invest them in someone who has positively no interest in you and may not even know you live. This is called unrequited love and it is as helpful in your life as black death. To pine after someone who doesn't appreciate your pining is nuts. Some people, of course, hang in there for many years and eventually their love object hits his head In a kitchen fall and wakes up crying, 'I've been a mad fool. Marry me.' Don't hold your breath. Get cognitive therapy.
• Should you get dumped
A boy who dumps you isn't worth knowing. He will be either blind or ignorant or both, threatened by your great beauty or mammoth intelligence and uncomfortable with a family as close as we are. What a sap. Forget him. You'll say it's not as easy as that and he has redeeming features or he wouldn't have been your boyfriend in the first place. But I'm telling you. I don't want to hear about his great shoulders or his sultry eyes. They are as nothing. He is gone.
Don't mope. Don't pine. Losers mope and pine. Be very sad for a day or two, write a couple of sad poems, feel outraged and move on. Tell everyone you were dumped because that's better than having them whisper it behind your back and if you see him again, be gracious but don't be fooled. If it didn't work once, I can't think of a reason it might work another time.
• My love life
I have had one love interest in my life and he is your father. You have seen how we carry on. That's about the sum of it.
Rule: If you get to be forty-one and you are still pining for a mysterious dark-haired man, people will think you're crazy and rightly call you Delta Dawn.